I wasn’t going to post anything tonight . . . but then I checked my stats. What is it? Perv season? Tonight someone found my site from the search terms looking for a couple who wants to swap.
Gah! GO. A.WAY.
Is there something kinky about casts of which I am unaware?
However, while we are on the subject of swinging, this may be a good time to answer Traci’s questions about Big Love and polygamy:
When you get to the end of your rope- you should just swing!!! 🙂 (Um, not maritally. You know like the fun kid “swing set” sort of swing;-) Hee- hee I am not making a Big Love joke here!!! By the way, have you ever watched the show? I would love to hear what you think of their portrayal of how today’s Mormons (they call them, LDS on the show) view the old polygamist practitioners and what the differences in beliefs are aside from the polygamy. Truly I do intend to keep researching it all- but- well… I get side tracked, you know?
First question: have I ever watched the show?
Reason: We don’t have cable or satellite t.v. I know some of you have undoubtedly just fallen off of your chairs. Yes, yes, we do have electricity and telephones and whatnot. Yes, I wear makeup and attempt to wear at least slightly stylish clothes. I don’t even know how to put my hair up in a bun and don’t have the patience or desire to braid it and wrap it around my head. But we don’t have cable or satellite t.v.
Well, o.k. technically we do have some cable. It is called limited cable and the cable companies don’t advertise it and pretend they don’t know what you’re talking about when you tell them you want it. This is because it only costs about $10.00 a month. For that price we get good reception of our local network channels, as well as the network channels out of the next closest city, and a couple of waste-of-airspace channels (specifically Lifetime, Oxygen, Fuse, and some channel that shows book signings/lectures by authors every evening — C-Span maybe?). We have chosen to keep cable (mostly) out of our home for a few reasons:
1. We’d watch waaaay too much damned television if we had it
2. If we can afford $70.00 (or whatever it is these days) a month for television when there are people in this world who can’t afford to feed themselves, aren’t there better things we could be doing with that money? So we chose to do other things, (things which have nothing to do with adoption, but do feed people and assist with humanitarian aid around the world) with our money.
“But . . . but . . . but,” you’re saying, “You’re a conservative! Conservatives just care about themselves! It says so on my bumper sticker: ‘Liberals treat dogs like people, conservatives treat people like dogs.'”
Well, your bumper sticker (and yes, I actually saw it on someone’s gas guzzling SUV) is wrong.
Wait, where were we? Ahh, yes, Big Love. So, obviously I am unqualified to form any opinion of how Big Love portrays “Mormons”. Here is what I hope, however: I hope they are not portraying members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints as polygamists. I hope they are not portraying the polygamists as some kind of “fundamentalist Mormons,” as the press often calls them. Though I’m sure the polygamist sects out west like to point to LDS history to explain what they are doing, they really and truly are not affiliated with the LDS church at all. They are so much a separate entity, or entities, from our church that I can’t even tell you how our beliefs compare to theirs if you take polygamy out of the equation. I just really don’t know.
Here is what I do know: our church officially dropped the practice of polygamy in 1890 (if memory serves — if it doesn’t, well, I know I’m darned close anyway). Even before the practice was dropped, it wasn’t a situation where any male member of the church could just marry as many women as he wanted to marry. My understanding is that it was more of a calling, or assignment, if you will. However, nobody was forced into it, though I don’t deny that there were probably women and men who were not all that thrilled about it.
Seriously, if you think about it, lots of men would be thrilled if it were just about the sex, but this was marriage. I sure as heck know I wouldn’t want to have to deal with more than one of them on a regular basis, and I’m guessing it was no picnic for the men to have to deal with more than one of us on a regular basis. Know what I mean? I cannot begin to imagine what it must have been like pulling handcarts across the plains in blizzard conditions with more than one wife PMSing.
How do today’s member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints view the polygamist practitioners from the early days of our church history? I would have to say that in many ways we respect these men and women for the sacrifices they made. There is so much focus on the polygamy aspect of the church back then, but what you need to understand is that they suffered more religious persecution than probably any other group in our nation’s history (even using the term Mormon was originally intended as a slur — it has never been the official name of the church). Early members of the church, whether polygamists or not, were attacked by mobs, tarred and feathered, beaten, raped and murdered. They were driven from one area of the country to another, to another, to another. Before finally heading out west they had established the city of Nauvoo, Illinois. It was, I believe, the largest city in that state at that time. They had homes and businesses and agriculture, and they were thriving. And then they had to leave it all behind — just pick up and move with only whatever they could fit into a covered wagon or handcart. When they left, they didn’t even know where exactly they were going.
How, specifically, do we view their practice of polygamy back then? With faith. We just have faith that it was what was needed at that time. Everyone I know, however, is pretty darned glad it is not needed now!
How do we view the polygamists sects of today? We view them as people who are breaking the laws of our land. We view them as people totally separate from us. We view them as misguided. Well, at least that’s how I view them. I don’t suppose I can really speak for anyone else, but I’m guessing that if I could, I’m not too far off.
And George, if you’re out there, Tewt the Newt says hello.