The Only Thing Constant in Life is Change

And, for the most part, I don’t like it.

But it isn’t all bad, either.

For instance, Quinn now points to his nose while saying “no” (his version of “nose” of course).  For some reason he seems to think this is the sign for “give me a chocolate chip.”  I don’t know why.  It’s not like I’ve been bribing him to point to his nose by giving him chocolate chips when he does it, or anything . . .

He also is now saying “mo” when he does the sign for “more,” which he actually seems to think means, “Food woman!  I want food!”  The other day I dumped some stale, dry cereal into the dog bowl and he toddled over, looked longingly down at it all, and started signing and saying “mo, mo, mo”.

Quinn has also learned the sign for “all done,” or “all gone.”  We use the same sign for both.  I don’t know if you’re supposed to do that?  But whatever.  And, as he does the sign he babbles a two syllable utterance that is supposed to be “all done.”

He has also started saying dog, though it is uncannily similar to the way he says dad, so the only way to differentiate is to follow his gaze and see if he is looking at his dad or at a dog.  It is so weird because, just like Laura said about Mattix the other day, Quinn will say something clear as a bell, but then never repeat it (I’m thinking specifically of the famous “Amen” incident at church, and the lesser known, “There you go,” incident in the truck).  Though, actually, he does say amen all the time now, but with nowhere near the same clarity as the first time.

Anyway, the things he does say, he doesn’t enunciate all that clearly.  Ma ma and amen and more all sound very, very similar.  We can tell the difference only because when he says more he also signs it, and when he says amen we have either just finished saying a prayer or are getting ready to say a prayer (either way, he is squinting his eyes opened and closed purposefully and rapidly when he means amen — oh, and smiling with great pride at what he is doing and the attention it is getting him).

*I just had some Kirby vacuum sales guys try to wheedle their way into my house!  One minute one guy is talking about some new store that will be opening nearby (as if there is anything actually nearby), similar to a Sam’s club, and then his cohort runs off and comes back with a Kirby.  What the . . .???? *

Where was I?  Oh, yes, changes.  The little bean is talking, though not perfectly clearly.  I’ve had some concerns about his receptive language development (mostly over the whole not pointing to his nose thing, but I know that’s what Dr.’s look for.  They don’t ask if he recognizes and responds to the words to Patty Cake or knows how to take a lint roller to the dog-hair covered furniture. No, they will ask him to point to his nose and see if he responds).

So, anyway, I don’t think I’m as worried as I was, but it’s been a while since I read all the adoption books.  What is the standard?  How long after a child is home before it is estimated they will have adapted to the new language and understand most of what is being said?  I know it varies with age, but as far as toddlers go? 

Also, another question, totally random:  when I was a little kid my brother and I loved this book . . . I think it was about a witch and a wizard who were having some kind of spell duel.  It was a kids’ book, not a novel.  At one point one of them cursed the other with “Ha ha ha!  Hee hee hee!  Athlete’s foot I give to thee!”  Does anyone know what book I’m talking about?  Because I sure don’t, and I think my kids would like it.

How’s that for dis-jointed randomness?  Really, it’s been a struggle to get this much accomplished on the blog today what with all the noise and interruptions by kids and dogs and vacuum cleaner salespeople.  I could soooooo use a diet Dr. Pepper right about now — but I’ve been caffeine free for about three days now.  Go me!  Just slowly.  And grumpily.

And George, if  you’re out there, Tewt the Newt says hello.

8 thoughts on “The Only Thing Constant in Life is Change

  1. Ha ha! We actually have Howl’s Moving Castle. A~ liked it. I haven’t read it yet. No, I was talking about al little kid, picture-type book.


  2. I don’t know the book either, but I did have to answer “what’s your favorite animated movie” on a survey yesterday and I said Howl’s Moving Castle…have you seen the movie? Awesome.


  3. Can’t help on the book, but just have to say Quinn (and you, though you already know that) crack me up. I think Delaney is starting to do “more” and “all done” too, though that could just be me thinking my kid is a bright little cookie and she’s really just flailing her hand around. Obviously Quinn is a smart little cookie, though you gotta wonder where that chocolate chip thing came from – hmmm, if one could only get to the bottom of that mystery…


  4. Okay, where DO you live? I didn’t know that traveling vacuum salesman existed any more. You were being serious, right?

    Glad to know that Mattix is normal (or that Quinn is equally strange – ha ha ha)…it freaks me out with the babbling, then the clear words, then the babbling. Mattix also uses the same sign for “all done” and “all gone.” And he made the sign up himself, about six or eight weeks after we were home, before I tried to teach him baby signs (and before I failed miserably). He just started doing this thing where he holds both his hands in front of him, at a 90 degree angle, and twists his wrists back and forth. He does he when he’s done, and he does it when something is gone. Sometimes it’s hard for me to tell whether he’s letting me know something is gone (when it’s actually gone) or whether he’s done. Because if it’s just gone, he might want more. I think I need to stop typing. Why does this even matter? Did I mention I only got three hours of sleep last night?

    I know nothing about this book. sorry. I am curious, though, so if you find it, let us know!


  5. Dianna

    Hey, my husband snapped the vacuum cleaner handle in half at my house, so could you send the salesmen my way? Honestly, HOW do you snap a v.c. handle in half???

    Anywho, we have the same language issues with Phoebe, who is now 18 months old and has been home for 8 1/2 months. Lots of babbling, excellent understanding, words clear as a bell one day and then never repeated. We have an appointment with our school district’s early intervention folks next week. To be honest, I’m not all that worried because it’s clear she knows what’s going on and how to get what she wants. I figure the language will come eventually. But with our district, the earlier you test and the lower you test, the more services you qualify for. We decided we’d rather be qualified for services now and get Phoebe started with some basic speech therapy instead of waiting another year to see what happens.

    One of our adoption agency buddies is receiving language therapy now (at 21 months) and his mama reports excellent progress after just a few sessions. His mama also reports that the therapist said 9-15 months of age are critical in language development and can lead to an up to two year delay in appropriate skills. I think it’s a matter of deciding how fast you want your kiddo to catch up.

    For us, it may come down to how well Phoebe tolerates the therapist. We all know how laid back and easy going Pheebs is… *snort*


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